The good news: we can heal from trauma!
The bad news: abuse and trauma can make the things that can bring healing seem bad.
It is a clinically proven fact that the one thing that can help someone heal from abuse, neglect, or trauma is relationship.
In the foster and adoptive world, where I come from, children that suffer neglect or abuse begin to fear all forms of relationship.
So we end up in a paradox. We want to feel close to God. Community, small groups, prayer, Bible study worship, and meditation can help. But now they taste like food-poisioned chorizo.